31 Days of Becoming Me – Day 4: Self Care & Soul Care


photo by Jeremy Ricketts

“The deepest need of my soul isn’t a personal organizer or empty inbox. The deepest need of my soul is Christ. But the problem is, I often forget where to find Him.” – Emily P. Freeman, Simply Tuesday.

Do you know what feeds your soul? What makes it come alive? What does true rest look like? These are all questions we must ask ourselves. It is individual – unique to you and only you know what feeds your soul. The world will sell us all manner of things, and I’ve tried several. It hasn’t been until the last few years that I’ve started to discover what soul care means for me.

I used to think it meant going to a coffee shop, or just getting any time without kids. And for me, that is part of it. I’m an introvert, so I need some space away from my littles. But more than that I need quiet, I need restorative rest. I’m still finding what works for me and part of that is discovering what doesn’t work. Starbucks doesn’t work for me. I always have someone approach me to talk when I’m alone at Starbucks. They start asking questions and progress with sharing what’s going on with them. In another circumstance I would be interested in hearing what they have to say, but when it’s “me” time…I need just that. I don’t want to talk with anyone else, I want quiet. I need quiet and stillness.

Soul care can embody a broad spectrum of things & activities. It’s everything from the perfect drink to warm sunshine to a whole day to do whatever feeds you. Depending upon your temperament this could mean different things. I love sensory experiences, the warmth of the sun, a perfect beverage and a good read. I’m also highly relational, so when I can I love to soak up as much one on one time with friends as I can. The trick is being intentional about it, so you can receive it as soul care. Chugging a cup of joe on the way to school or a meeting is not the same as sipping a warm beverage and reveling in it’s warmth and comfort.

These are some of the things that work for me:

  • A nap, with my door closed & Dad home (of course).
  • Coffee at home with littles preoccupied. I love my nespresso and whole-heartedly believe a good cup of coffee is straight from heaven.
  • Solitary walks
  • Books and lots of them.
  • Exploring or revisiting an area by myself. I live near Boulder, CO and it’s one of my favorite haunts. I love the farmer’s market, Pearl Street, the shops and coffee. There is one coffee shop that has a quiet room (no phones allowed) – there is no talking, which is my kind of coffee shop.
  • Hiking solo.
  • Hot Cinnamon Spice Tea
  • Essential oils
  • A call from a dear friend
  • Creating, I love graphic art, adult coloring books and crafting.
  • Journaling
  • Counseling/Therapy
  • Music (I’m currently digging the Gray Havens)
  • Laughter – a good podcast, Jimmy Fallon, a funny friend or being silly with my kids.
by Alex Jones
photo by Alex Jones

I’m still adding to my list. What’s on yours? I’d love to hear, we can always learn from each other. There’s another blog that’s exploring the topic of soul care for these 31 days. I’m following along.


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